The leather collar closes around my neck. With a careful tug, he fastens it, draws the catch through and locks it onto me. My wrist and ankles follow, each buckled into its smooth leather cuff, the fur lining soft against my pulse. Tiny locks trap me in place and I stand before him, more naked than not, breathless with anticipation of what will come next.

Clipping the leash to the D-ring on my collar, he orders me to my knees, and I crawl behind him through the gathering crowd. Eyes downcast, I can only see the black shoes of the other man, but I hear every word as I am ordered to greet my new master, to be completely obedient to him, if only for this one evening. I kneel down, prone in front of this new man, lips brushing the tops of his shoes in supplication while he and D exchange last minute words and my leash is released into new hands...

Social psychologists at McGill University have discovered that different beliefs between men and women about the power of flirting can hurt committed relationships.

Men simply do not see the same danger as women when a flirt strikes, says Prof. John Lydon, lead author of the study in the July issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, published by the American Psychological Association.

But there is an almost immediate negative impact on the relationship, researchers discovered in a series of experiments involving 724 heterosexual college students involved in serious relationships.

Lydon, a relationship expert, says the team studied flirting because they are surrounded by students as subjects. If they were studying people in their 40s, he says, they'd have looked at problems with in-laws or conflict resolution.

In one experiment, a meeting with an "available, attractive alternative" was closely followed by the discovery their partner had done something that irritated them, such as reveal an embarrassing detail to others. The men got angry. The women, however, became more loving and forgiving.

According to Lydon, these young women recognized the danger presented by an attractive flirt and worked to shore up the committed relationship they already had. The men didn't have a clue what was going on, he says...

For partnered women, a manly man with no attachments seems sexiest when she is fertile.

Whom do you fancy? When in a relationship, women’s preferences change over the course of their menstrual cycle.

Women beware: instinctive preferences might up the odds of getting pregnant when cheating on a partner.

In a study looking at the ever-interesting (and ever-mysterious) question of why women are attracted to certain men, researchers found that sexual interest shifts with a partnered woman’s menstrual cycle. When fertile, women in relationships are most attracted to single men; when infertile their attraction shifts to coupled men...

A stripper who danced on the poles of Santiago subway trains to challenge the prudishness of Chilean society was arrested on Thursday during one of her lightning performances.

Monserrat Morilles, 26, surprised subway riders all week stripping to skimpy underwear, but she refused tips.

She said she was protesting a lack of tolerance in Chile, one of Latin America's most conservative societies where the first generation since the Pinochet dictatorship is reaching adulthood.

"This is just a beginning. We are starting an idea here that will grow and be developed further," she told Reuters as police and subway guards surrounded her.

The professional pole dancer worked quickly all week to avoid arrest, getting on at one station, finding a subway car with no children on it and stripping in time to exit at the next station.

Chilean media dubbed her "La Diosa del Metro" or Subway Goddess. She called her performances "happy minutes."

"Chile is still a pretty timid country," said her manager Gustavo Pradenas. "People aren't very extroverted and we want to take aim at that and make Chile a happier country."

First off, penetrative sex with a guy involves what I refer to as an erotic power struggle - a confluence of dominant vs. submissive, if you will. And I don’t mean that in a negative way. In fact, it is actually very much a positive thing as I see it. What I mean is, during the physical act of having sex the guy must exert a certain amount of physical force or power against which the woman must react in order for either/both to achieve orgasm. That forceful penetration and the reaction to it is one of *the* best things about sex with a guy in my opinion. Even being penetrated by a woman with a strap-on is nowhere near as satisfying as it is when a live cock is involved. An owner of a real penis has a feedback loop that helps guide him during the act of intercourse (the fact that some may be clueless to it or choose to ignore it notwithstanding). He can sense if he’s going too deep, if the lube is drying up, or if she’s squeezing her PC muscles, and all of this (ideally) works to facilitate a mutually beneficial outcome. With a strap-on, there is no such feedback, and the person wearing the it generally derives no significant benefit from it outside knowing that she’s giving her partner pleasure.

With perhaps the possible exception of a woman performing oral sex on a guy, almost by its very nature the act of penetrative sex with a man requires the woman to be submissive; this is imposed on us by the fundamental biological differences that exist between the male and female. I add the qualifier regarding oral sex because I believe it is possible to construct a valid argument that sucking a man’s cock is not a submissive act (though I realize many feminist types might disagree with that). Any woman who knows how much control she’s had of a man when she’s had her lips wrapped around his cock knows exactly what I mean by that...

I am a sex positive feminist. I believe that being in control of one’s sexual self involves having access to information that allows for informed decision making. I also believe that it involves access to the medical treatments and technology –from condoms to regular Pap smears to Gardasil to abortion procedures – that put women in charge of their bodies. I believe in sexual self-determination, that each person has a right to determine who she will be intimate with, and in what context, without being judged for her choices or forced into others. I believe that being in control of one’s sexual self is an integral part of autonomous adulthood, and until women are given the right to control our sexual selves we will continue to be treated like children in this paternalistic society.

I reject the traditional representation of all things sexual as dirty or shameful. I do not believe that “anything consensually sexual goes, as long as orgasm is the aim.” I believe that anything consensually sexual goes; I don’t care if you’re doing it or not, how you do it, what genders you prefer to do it with, how many people you do (at once or separately), if you’re using porn or sex toys, or if you like it kinky, as long as you’ve got the information you need to make informed decisions. I stand just as strongly for a woman’s right not to have sex (of any kind) if she doesn’t want to, and I believe that women who make that decision deserve support and protection as well. I do not believe that I am an object belonging to the person I’m having sex with, unless I want to be. I do not believe I am a victim of masculine sexuality...

Men are not aroused by women - by which I mean human beings of the female gender, the essential person, separate from her cultural trappings. They are aroused by the idea of a struggle they can win by fucking the loser of the struggle. (Thanks, Andrea Dworkin!) All the cultural trappings that identify the person to be fucked in the contest of wills between these two humans are what we think of as male and female identities...