Force Me, Please: On Noncon and Noncon Play in Fanfic
Kink Bingo:
I've loved noncon and have had rape fantasies since as far back as I can remember. We're talking about feeling aroused—or whatever you can call arousal when you're a proto-sexual child—watching Care Bears and My Little Ponies trapped on conveyor belts, watching Donald Duck getting stripped for an exam, tying up Barbies naked and constructing elaborate abduction scenarios with Legos. Sex didn't really excite me unless there was some element of threat or force. (Witness also the genesis of my preferences for bondage, exposure and medical kink, heh.)

Liking fictional rape was a huge source of confusion and shame for me growing up. My friends made grossed-out or disturbed faces when I talked about who I thought were sexy, sexually threatening villains in movies or showed them Mary Sue scenes I'd written. I would blush when something noncon-y occurred in a movie or TV show that I was watching with my parents; it took me years to figure out that that was because I thought they'd know I was turned on by it. It didn't even have to be an out-and-out rape scene. Because, honestly! The Emperor zapping Luke Skywalker until he writhed on the ground! Gul Madred stripping and suspending Captain Picard! Gary Oldman stroking terrified girls' faces in Air Force One and The Professional! The beginning of just about every Law & Order: SVU episode! *shivers with joy* No one I knew shared my predilections, so I learned to keep quiet about them....

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 The Researchers Who Analyzed All the Porn on the Internet
Healthland:
Why are cheating wives so popular? You'd expect that would not be something men would like to think about.

It's one of the top interests all around the world. Men are wired to be sexually jealous. And, certainly, men can fly into murderous rages, but simultaneously they're also sexually aroused.

This is an example of what biologists call a sperm competition cue. Across the animal kingdom, when males see other males mating, it tends to provoke arousal. If he is going to compete with the other male, he has to produce more sperm

Human men also respond like this, if a man sees a woman — including his partner — with another man, he becomes more aroused...

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 It gets wetter
Crunk Feminist Collective:
I don’t enjoy penetration of any kind unless I’m wet enough to drown a dolphin. And this truth wouldn’t be a problem if sex weren’t always about penetration. One sex therapist put it best when she said, “If most women don’t have orgasms during ‘sex,’ but do have orgasms, perhaps we need to redefine sex.” Amen and Ashé.

With a redefinition that includes pleasurable, intimate touch, kissing and best of all (for me, anyway) cunnilingus, I realize that I had some of my best sex as a teenager. He was Pentecostal and I was a Baptist youth leader. We were both convinced that sex before marriage was wrong and equally convinced that only penetration was sex. It was a sultry, sticky summer full of questions that began with “Do you like?” Sex was a lazy journey without a clear destination...

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 Most pathetic attempts to impress a member of the opposite sex
Reddit:
I bought and sent myself roses on Valentine's day, in order to convince the girls in my 10th grade class that I had admirers.

Everybody just thought of me as the creepy guy who bought himself flowers..

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 I was the Harvard harlot
Salon:
Professionally speaking, I'm what some people call a "sexpert" (and probably what your granny might call a "harlot"). By the ripe age of 20, I'd already written an explicit sex blog, moonlighted as a dating columnist, and had college classmates trade naked photos of me like baseball cards. Since I've graduated, I've made a living speaking about and reporting on sex. So when Marie Claire approached me (along with four other women) about a story on my sexual history and number of partners last fall, it seemed like the perfect opportunity to talk about double standards. There was only one glaring problem: It brought me back to a person I tried mightily not to be anymore, and the "fearless" sexual provocateur they were hoping to interview was now terrified what others might think...

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 Anna
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Found on Kindgirls.
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 Combining work with pleasure
Dvorak:
In a decision that can only be described as touchy, a Brazilian judge has reportedly ruled that a 36-year-old female accountant can legally masturbate at work and watch porn on her work computer.

Ana Catarian Bezerra successfully argued that she suffers from a chemical imbalance that triggers severe anxiety and hypersexuality, according to a viral news story. Her work situation began to suffer because the only way she can relieve her anxiety is by masturbating frequently...

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 10 guiding principles to the would-be pornographers
Out There:
6) Fluid is fun.

Look, sex is sticky. There’s no way around this. If you want to represent the truth of the acts, you will likely be required to pay homage to the resultant wetnesses. And I’m not just talking about semen or vaginal fluid. I’m also talking sweat and saliva, which I consider to be the perfume of lovers, as well as whatever one chooses as a lubricant (sesame oil?).

7) Real people do not talk in porn clichés.

They do not say: "Give it to me, big boy."

They do not say: "Suck it, baby. That’s right, all the way down."

They do not say: "Yes, deeper, harder, deeper! Oh, baby, oh, Christ, yes!"

At least, they do not say these things to me.

Most of the time, real people say all kinds of weird, funny things during sex, such as, "I think I’m losing circulation" and "I’ve got a cramp in my foot" and "Oh, sorry!" and "Did you come already? Goddamn it!"...

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 The secret sex lives of the Founding Fathers
picture Salon:
We often think that muckraking and tabloid journalism emerged in recent years. But in 1729, 40-some years before the revolution even started, Benjamin Franklin was publishing a tabloid newspaper that had the first-ever sex advice column. He was really a fascinating character with a reputation for seducing women, and that actually helped him in getting France's support for the war. He was the ambassador to France at the time. So even the Founding Fathers were a rowdy bunch of guys.

There were some women that were notorious in the early years too. Dolley Madison was without a doubt the most colorful first lady we ever had. She had a couple of her sisters live with her in the White House, and they were really pretty wild girls. They used to throw parties there, and they would invite members of the Continental Army. One of President James Madison's Cabinet members said to him, "I know you don't want to hear this, but your wife has single-handedly turned the White House into a brothel."...

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 Nudity for Charity
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Nudity for Charity.
[Nickname] will unlock her nude pics when donations to her charity reach [X] dollars.

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 Victorian Sex Slang
picture Mooky Chick:
Breasts - Diddeys, bubbies (a bushel bubby is a full-breasted woman), chicken-breasted (flat-chested), one's dairy, cupid's kettle drums
Testicles - Whirlygigs, ballocks, bawbles, trinkets, gingambobs, thingambobs, tallywags, twiddle-diddles
Woman's private parts - Cock alley, Cock Lane, one's commodity, dumb glutton, fruitful vine, old hat (because frequently felt), Miss or Lady Laycock, madge, money (commonly applied to little children. 'Careful there miss, or you'll show us your money'), muff, notch, cunny, quim, crinkum-crankum
Willy - Arbor vitae, gaying instrument, lobcock (a willy that's large and relaxed), Nebuchadnezzar, plug-tail, tackle, whore-pipe
Shagging - to tup, to dab it up with, to give a green gown (ie. get her dress grassy), to join giblets, to grind, to knock, to occupy, prigging, wapping..

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 5 Myths About the Penis
Good Men:
1. Myth: The penis is a muscle.
This myth gets peddled by those dudes who want to sell techniques for “strengthening” and lengthening the penis. But in fact, the penis isn’t a muscle. It’s a collection of spongy tissues that rely entirely on engorgement with blood to become erect. The most important muscle in terms of getting and sustaining a hard-on is the heart. Draw your own conclusions from that.
Some experts believe you can strengthen erections by building your kegel muscles (men and women have them). This involves repetitive squeezing, as if you’re holding back and then releasing urine. For men, strong kegels may help with premature ejaculation—and they may intensify orgasm...

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 You're not as kinky as you think
NYpost:
Among their more surprising findings: Straight men enjoy a wider variety of erotica than imagined, including sites devoted to elderly women and transsexuals. Foot fetishes aren’t a deviance; men are evolutionarily wired to look for small feet, which are a sign of high estrogen production, which itself is a sign of fertility. Gay men and straight men have nearly identical brains, and their favorite body parts, in order of preference, line up exactly: chests, buttocks, feet. Straight men prefer heavy women to thin ones. Straight women enjoy reading about and watching romances between two men — it’s not about the sex, which is downplayed, but the emotion, which is the focus. (The largest audience for “Brokeback Mountain,” says the book, was straight women.) Straight men have a fascination with other men’s penises, which may be conscious or unconscious...

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 A Practical Guide For Backpackers
Matador:
The Laundry Room

Most hostels have a laundry room that is abandoned at night. If you’re feeling naughty, the stacks of fresh-smelling sheets and towels make an ideal love-nest.

The more considerate and hygienic option is to make use of the sturdy appliances, with the woman sitting on top of the washer / dryer. (Extra points for spin cycle).

The Roof

When checking into your next hostel, take a look around and see if there’s any way to access the roof. Overhanging trees are one possibility, as are upstairs windows with broad sills from which you can pull yourself up to the rooftop.

Of course safety is important, and you shouldn’t take unnecessary risks, but you’d be surprised at how many hostel roofs are accessible with a little ingenuity.

And once you’re up there – well, the sky is the limit...

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 Kawasaki is full of dicks
picture Viceland:
It’s no secret that many Japanese people have a rather liberal response to the admittedly subjective question, “What’s weird in the bedroom?” But that doesn’t mean they’re running around being all pervy and pulling their dicks out in the street. In fact, the only ways you will ever see a Japanese penis in public is by sneaking a peek into the sento (the neighborhood public bath), or by heading to Kawasaki on the first Sunday in April, where you will be bombarded with more dicks than you can shake a stick at. Short, fat, crooked, straight, hard, squishy… they’re all there, and many of them are edible.

This 300-year-old matsuri, called the Festival of the Steel Penis, is based on a legend about a demon who hid inside the vagina of a young girl and castrated two men on her wedding night—why two men? I have no idea. She then asked a blacksmith to forge an iron dildo to shove up her hungry orifice to slay the demon. This inspired Shintoists to build a gigantic penis shrine to protect her and other sexual deviants from STDs...

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