How To Make A Woman Do Anything In Bed7 comments
30 Mar 2006 @ 01:37

From Not on my Ass. Well, it is a little overly crude and simplistic, but the guy has some points. Like:
What I've learned is that every single woman has had at least one relationship where she was a complete slut. She never forgets this steamy sordid relationship. She never forgets the time when they couldn't keep their hands off each other. She remembers it as the best sex she ever had. She did things that were so nasty that she was nervous to tell even her closest friends about it. She may never tell you about it but she still thinks about it. She can do anything if the right "buttons" are pressed.
Yes. But then his advice basically boils down to this:
The secret to getting her to do your perverted will is to speak with authority. Do not say "sweetheart". Do not say "please". Most of all, do not, under any circumstances say "I was wondering if...". You're going to have to be the alpha male.

▫ After getting tired of all the tame sex I was having, I decided to try out this experiment. After work, I passed by the pub, had a stiff vodka on the rocks and psyched up. When I got home, my girlfriend was watching some cheesy Spanish soap opera. I unplugged the telly. She looked at me like she was ready to knife me. Before she could comment, I walked to her and ripped her blouse apart. Buttons sprung into the air and flew across the room like loose change. Immediately, her anger turned into fear. I almost hesitated until I noticed that her nipples were as hard and long as AK bullets.

▫ I grabbed her roughly by her hair and told her in no uncertain terms: "Woman.. today you are going to suck cock!". She gasped in shock. I stared at her without flinching and said: "NOW!!!". Like a panicky virgin, with hands trembling slightly, she unbuckled my belt, unzipped my pants and pulled my tool out. Suffice it to say that I had the most amazing and perverted sex known to man that night. Now, when I go to visit her, she's always naked and waiting with some new and more amazing idea. When she visits me at work, she comes without underwear. How cool is that?

Put some bass in your tone. You are the man. You don't ask for what you want, you take what you want!. Nothing gets a woman more open than the realization that you are a man with power and control. The man who can get any woman he wants and get them to do anything he wants.
Well, yeah, but I think he then goes a bit overboard with how you need to be an asshole and call her a slut. That's not the point. Just a reminder that it isn't ok to do something to somebody against their will, and that respect is crucial to a good relationship. But there's a point there. You don't surrender to somebody who goes "Ahem, I wonder if..." And, yes, most people will surrender IF somehow you get the magic formula right. Assertiveness is probably part of it, but it needs to be built on some kind of foundation of trust.

[< Back] [Sexoteric Blog]

Category:  

7 comments

31 Mar 2006 @ 00:46 by laura : how to make a woman do anything in bed
wow--talk about robbing women of any kind of individuality. his "advice" is offensive--not because submissiveness is wrong, but because he states that all women are like that. but because women are people, that means they are not all alike. men need to quit lumping women into this one monolithic group with the same tastes, desires, and needs--if men don't like being reduced to a label, they'd do best to quit doing that to women as well. another thing--if she has thinning hair (i know many women with thinning hair, and their sons actually inherit this, which we mistakenly call male pattern balding), him grabbing it is the worst thing he can do, and it's no turn on. i only speak for myself, but i'm very proud of my hair. if anyone tried to pull it, that person would get a quick kick in the face. in fact, one date tried to pull it while we were kissing, and i screamed bloody murder and twisted his nipples hard. also, i doubt this guy has slept with every kind of woman, so how can he dispense advice about ALL women? sounds like someone who loves to talk big. maybe i'll believe it when is see a video of his supposed escapades. good rule of thumb: women fudge down, men fudge up.  

31 Mar 2006 @ 12:41 by stanley : Women
It sounds like he discovered that he got somewhere by being more assertive with his girlfriend, and then sort of generalized it.

Yeah, you're right. You can't just lump everybody in the same category, and it is kind of dangerous when the approach is a not-respectful, semi-violent kind of thing.

The reason I posted it, I guess, is that I agree with the point that most women would go for something much more wild than normally IF it is presented the right way. Which might be an assertive way that allows one to surrender to it and just go with the fantasy. But, there are lots of buts, and everybody's different. So, if one just tries to follow this recipe in general, one is probably more likely to get a well-deserved kick in the balls, or find oneself being a convicted rapist.  

1 Apr 2006 @ 00:41 by laura : how to make women do anything in bed
i followed the link to the blog and read his post in its entirety. well, it sounds like this guys loves to tell tall tales. it doesn't sound the slightest bit realistic, because he expects the women in his life to become instant porn stars the minute he "puts some bass" in his voice. but normal women don't keep their bodies like porn stars for a reason: porn star sex is very very difficult because the stars themselves are like professional athletes who watch what they eat and train carefully. this guy mentions about wanting more anal play. well, if this woman eats (most women DO eat, because that is necessary for living), anal play can be very unfeasable because accidents are likely to happen unless she preps herself first like porn stars do. how many women think: "oh i have to use an enema so i don't embarras myself when i have sex tonight"? too many women as it is are sloppy with birth control, now all of a sudden, they're gonna remember the enemas so her man can spontaneously engage in anal play without having to ask her first? this consideration is common for porn stars who expose themselves for a living, but for most regular women who have to go out and earn money the regular way--after a hard day's work, she's supposed to not have eaten anything and used a enema just to give him what he wants, just in case? was this poster serious?

look, there's nothing wrong if this guy actually has a woman who will do anything he wants just as long as he lowers his voice. but what he's proposing is really pie in the sky. he wants to be spontaneous, meaning he'll just tell her without asking for it. well sometimes, asking can be a REALLY good thing. i have 2 guys friends who confided in me what happens when women aren't asked first, and are therefore unprepared. one guy friend wind up getting shit on his dick, thinking it was "hot" to just take her by surprise. well, i guess they both got a surprise. my other friend thought he'd get macho and he non-verbally insisted on intercourse, not realizing that his girlfriend was suffering from a nasty yeast infection. well, i gues if he had asked first, this wouldn't have happened. but asking first is too "pussy", right?

this guy's standard is the porn star, and he complains that the women in his life are nothing like the porn stars he loves. well, hate to break it to him, but porn stars aren't like porn stars in real life either. they're not spontaneous anal adventurers like he imagines them to be, because the porn stars prep for hours, sometimes days, before a shoot. there's a lot of planning involved, something a woman doesn't have any time to do when she's scared and he's commanding her to do something she didn't expect to do right now.

like i said earlier, i think this guy is telling a tall tale. i'm sure he got all alpha male on his girlfriend, but i have a really strong suspicion that he just made a mountain out of a molehill.

also, i don't think he realizes that porn is a fantasy. fantasy has no bearing on reality, and to ask women to conform to an image even porn stars can't keep up in their personal life is just ludicrous.  

1 Apr 2006 @ 03:14 by stanley : Not asking
Well, it is that many kinky activities require some setup and a system of communication. If there's a basis of trust and system of signaling each other what is going on, one can sort of skip some steps, or rather trust that they're already in place. It is perfectly feasible to have a relationship where you don't have to ask first, at least apparently. Because you've already asked in some fashion, by negotiating your relationship, or by getting to know each other well enough to know what it means when she pulls away at a certain time, or she says "no", or whatever it is. But just because we can notice that lots of people have worked out how to relate doesn't mean that somebody else can come along and think they have it all figured out when they haven't. Sex is always, or should always be, based on permission. Even if one person is the slave and the other calls the shots, that's only meaningful if the slave volunteered to play that role. Even if the agreement is "be ready for anal at any moment", there better be room for exceptions and a way of indicating that it might not be such a great idea at this very moment.  

22 Apr 2006 @ 21:03 by Paul Blake : About Extremes
Hi, I'm the author of the post you linked to. I just wanted to thank you for featuring it.


Sadly, many readers got the impression that I was advocating for one hedonistic method to solve all sexual problems. That was ( is ) not the case. The extreme tone of my post, while being antagonistic, was aimed at making this one simple point: We shouldn't be afraid to explore. More often than not, our lovers will be willing to go much farther down the rabbit hole ( no pun intended ) than we imagine.


ps. The crudeness and simplicity were intentional. Simplicity, incidentally, is often the key to most solutions;)  

22 Apr 2006 @ 21:08 by Paul Blake : A Rebuttal by a Woman
You might also want to read this interesting rebuttal to my post:


[link]  

23 Apr 2006 @ 00:58 by stanley : Make a woman do anything
Thanks for coming by. Very cool that you're linking to some contrasting views, and that you actually see it in a somewhat more nuanced way. Yeah, as she's saying, what works is for a man to be confident, and to not be afraid of being in control. One can say that more or less crudely, but it is a valid point.  

Your Name:
Your URL: (or email)
Subject:       
Comment:
For verification, please type the word you see on the left:

Other articles in
18 Mar 2010 @ 03:46: More porn, less sex crime
17 Mar 2010 @ 03:25: Preparing for Your First Anal Sex
16 Mar 2010 @ 15:57: Which country has the best sex?
13 Mar 2010 @ 15:25: Most adulterous professions
11 Mar 2010 @ 18:27: What do you mean you 'had sex'?
10 Mar 2010 @ 02:12: The 5 Most Dangerous Sex Positions (And How To Do Them!)
8 Mar 2010 @ 04:06: Stream
7 Mar 2010 @ 03:06: Compersion
6 Mar 2010 @ 00:42: The Science of Orgasm
5 Mar 2010 @ 00:57: Still Lovers

[< Back] [Sexoteric Blog] Bookmark and Share [PermaLink]? 

Pmates - Kindgirls - Bad Suzy - Petardas - Sensual Arousal - Tiny Eve - Fleshbot - Kristen Archives - Indie Nudes -