If you're feeling brave, look for someone who appears comfortable with themselves and the environment. A veteran swinger can offer endless tips and share all sorts of valuable information. Start out by introducing yourself and admitting your inexperience. Most experienced players will be eager to share a kernel of wisdom or two.

Now, you could easily follow all these instructions and manage to alienate your fellow sexual adventurers. You also want make sure you aren't the irritating guy, either. Making conversation is a smart move, and event at a sex party, personal questions aren't completely off base. You should, however, still be tactful. You probably don't want to start off with, "So, are those real?" Most women can appreciate a compliment, but "Hey, nice ass!" won't endear you to anyone. Try something more subtle. Manners and respect will take you far.

Once you feel comfortable, you can become more of a participant. The most important piece of advice is probably: don't ever assume that hot chick over there is just waiting for you to grab her ass. No one likes to be gratuitously groped.

And that couple fucking on the couch probably isn't interested in having you and your wanking cock inches from their ears. Or listening to your heavy breathing. Or your running commentary. If you're a voyeur, stand at a respectable distance and watch, quietly. They aren't at a swing party for privacy. If they like the looks of you, perhaps they'll motion you over to join them. But never jump right in.

If you should suddenly find yourself in the midst of actual sex, try to contain your excitement and behave yourself. Take things slowly. Ask permission, or wait for a nod of approval, before every move. Kisses and caresses work best when you're the new person.

If things escalate, you should definitely play safe. Bring condoms with you, just in case the party doesn't provide them. Any penetration at all should be done with protection, as should any genital contact. Surgical gloves and dental dams are always a good idea if you're having sex with strangers.